Saturday, April 4, 2015

...because I will be marrying the person I love.

Today is one of those posts that is real and raw and not too pretty. It is the reason I began blogging in the first place, to cut through the fancy florals and flavor choices to the meat of life, love and traditions.

I have a bride that recently shared that her fiance is "excited to get the old her back". This casual comment made me feel a lot of different things. First, I was sad because I want all brides (and really people in general) to be joyful. Secondly, it made me question my ability as a planner. Was I doing something wrong? Could I have helped her in another way? Was I lacking? Do all couples feel this way with the big day only weeks away?

After a bit of reflection and research I realized YES. Yes a lot of couples feel this way. Almost everyone I spoke to could recall feeling this way. Also, Yes I can help. I can reassure them that everything was going to be fine. I spent the morning coming up with 8 things that could go wrong at any standard wedding, but if they do the world will not end. The moon will hang, the sun will shine, and the two saying "I do" will still love each other. Please take a moment to read my open letter to all engaged couples with a month til their wedding and to verbally read the 8 affirmation points out loud. Claim your happiness. It may just make you feel like your old self again...

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

11 Reasons I loved (and hated) Scheana Marie's Wedding...

Good Morning lovelies! I hope everyone had a love filled Valentine's Day weekend. Today's post is all about Scheana and Shay's wedding , from the hit show Vanderpump Rules. I am an avid watcher of Bravo and a huge fan of the show. Being in my twenties, living in the LA area and working part time in a restaurant, I can relate to a lot of their struggles and celebrations.

Last year, Shay made a beautiful proposal to Scheana at Lisa Vanderpump's estate Villa Rosa. After the immediate "yes" I knew she would not be able to wait to begin planning. I immediately reached out to offer my wedding planning services. I never expected a response, but was actually contacted by Scheana's mom, Ericka, via phone. We had two phone interviews and chatted a lot about Scheana's vision and needs. I could tell Erika was a great mom and support system for her daughter, but that a wedding of this magnitude needed a professional team to make it all go smoothly. After being considered, I got the text no planner wants to hear, they hired someone else. Honestly, (although I would have done an amazing job) I wasn't that bummed because I figured with all her connections and networking that she chose someone with more experience. This being over a year ago, I was still just starting out and getting my business up and running. Now months and months later we finally got to see how everything panned out.

Monday, January 19, 2015

Why the Lovings are two of my heros...

Photo Credit : Lens

Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day, a day that I always forget is coming until it's already here. A day I make a mental note to it's existence but never really celebrate. I don't know what is different this year, but something changed. Maybe I'm growing up and realizing these holidays have meaning and these people we are celebrating changed our world. Maybe it's the elevated spotlight in the news about inequality, injustice and abuse. Maybe I'm personally feeling vulnerable and emotional due to family changes and things I scanned over in the past suddenly have a greater meaning.

No matter the reason, I decided to reread the famous speech I have a dream. I began crying. I'm still teary as I write to you now. What I couldn't get over is that this speech was said in front of millions in 1963, a year before my mother was born. This was not generations ago, this was only one generation ago.

As a Wedding Planner I can't help but relate most things in life to weddings, marriage, love, relationships. It's how my brain operates. This speech was given four years before interracial marriage was made legal nationwide by the Supreme Court, when my mother was three years old. This was not generations ago, this was only one generation ago.

When this speech took place there were people fighting to be able to live as man and wife in their own home towns without persecution, only because they had different color skin tones. I'm so moved and touched and humbled by the struggle that some have had to go through for the rights they deserve. I have never had a moment in my life where I have second guessed loving the person of my choice or being scared I wouldn't be allowed to marry them. This was a real fear for loving and upright couples all through the first half of the last century. One of the stories that touches my heart the most is of Loving vs. Virginia. Their struggle was not generations ago, but only one generation ago...

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Why not to invite out of guilt...

wedding guests
Photo Credit : Art de Vie

As a Wedding Planner I try my hardest not to tell my clients what to do, but help assist them to accomplish whatever it is they want to do. It's not my job to tell my clients how many people to invite, what colors to choose or how much their budget should be. It is my job to be the voice of reason when they are stuck or request guidance. This rule I'm sharing with you today is something I am a bit bossy about : Do NOT make guilt invitations.

This meaning, you may not ask anyone to be in your wedding party you don't want. You are not allowed to invite anyone to be a guest to your wedding that you do not want there. You should not hire anyone to do any task for your wedding that you are not completely happy with. I call all these instances guilt invitations. These situations may  may seem harmless at the time, but end in hassle, higher bills and regret. Find out exactly what I'm talking about and how to avoid these sticky situations at your own wedding...

Friday, January 9, 2015

Unveiled: To cover or not to cover...

Blooming Floral Crown, Greek Goddess Headband, Roman Tiara, Bridal Hair Accessory, Golden Floral Wreath, Flower Crown, Gold Flowers

In our last post we chatted all about veils. It was interesting to find out why brides began wearing them, length and fabric possibilities along with a few great tips. If you missed it click here to catch up on all the lovely tulle and lace filled options. Today we flipped the script and are going over bridal styles that are not a veil. These options might seem more modern or in current vogue, but you might be surprised. Most Christian ceremonies before the 19th Century adorned their bride and groom with crowns made of twigs and flowers. Meaning veils are actually a newer tradition in a lot of religions and their more revealing counterparts are more classic. There is no exact definition, guide or industry standard for non-veil options. So I made my own. Here are my favorites from most minimal to most covered and some amazing examples...

Sunday, January 4, 2015

Veiled: To cover or not to cover...

I was so blessed last month with lots of time for research. I have been reading up on everyone's trend predictions for 2015. Will we have more chic and less rustic? Will there be less paper Save the Dates and more digital confirmations? I'm not sure. I don't know which one of these fads will catch on. I'm a horrible fortune teller and most things I think are worth trending are just really pretty things my grandparents did. I did notice that in all forty five(ish) articles I read predicting the next twelve months, there was no mention of veils. I thought this was odd considering I always categorized a veil as a staple bridal piece. Bridal Barbie has a veil, all the Disney Princesses had veils, my mother had a veil. Are crowns and headbands the new veil? Are we done with veils because we are a generation of more progressive women? How did veils even become a thing? Were they really to cover the faces of women before they were married so the man had no idea what his bride looked like?

I decided (surprise, surprise) to do some sleuthing. I got some great answers and ideas. I also decided it would be great to lay out a bunch of options for my brides and readers to have. Today we will be covering all veil types, how the tradition came about and also some helpful hints. Tomorrow we will be chatting about some awesome non-veil options to adorn your crown with.

Saturday, January 3, 2015

7 Things I Learned from Shelby Swink

I came across this amazing story of a sweet 23 year old young lady, Shelby Swink, that was going through a heartbreak. Her fiance, whom she had met in college, and her were happily engaged to be married after a romantic proposal in March 2014. With wedding planning going swimmingly and a bright future ahead, she was surprised when the week before her November 1st wedding arrived he backed out. He told her he did not love her and didn't want to marry her.

"Bam. My dreams of marrying and having kids with what I thought was the man I would  spend the rest of my life with vanished," she said. 


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